Change is a fact of life. All around us are the signs of constant change from the cycle of the seasons to the dance of birth and life in nature. Nothing stays the same. Just look in the mirror. Our lustrous hair turns grey and thins (that is, unless you have the services, as I do, of an amazing hairdresser). Our hearing goes. Our eyesight goes – not a bad thing when you look in the mirror! Senior moments have become senior days. What we need to do at this point is take a page from nature’s playbook. Where there is decline and death, there is transformation and life.
It is not by accident that the theme of this blog is metamorphosis for this captures the essence of transformation. How better to imagine aging than as a process of positive change. We often see only the negative aspects of change, but what about the possibility of transforming ourselves? We may not be able to stop change but we have the power to change things and make this final stage on earth one of purpose and fulfillment.
We are going to change. The question to ask ourselves is “will it bring me closer to the me I’ve always wanted to be or will it result in collapse and disintegration?” Transformation begins with attitude. How we view change as we age will determine how successfully we can transform our lives.
There is no recipe for creating transformation. It is a process of changing little by little, often without realizing that the changes are taking place. A critical starting point for the process is having a positive attitude toward aging,
- Open your transformational journal and ask yourself:
- What is your attitude toward aging?
- Do I dwell on all I’ve lost?
- Do I believe there’s nothing left for me?
- Do I regret all the things I haven’t done in my life?
- Do I feel jealousy toward those who have obvious accomplishments?
- The list goes on!
- What impact on your quality of life do these negative thoughts have?
- Continue to examine your attitude and consider
how you can flip these negative thoughts and replace then with:
- gratitude for what you have;
- celebration of all that you are and all you will become.
Over the next few posts, I will look at transformation of body, mind and spirit.
Something To Think About
Before I go, I’d like to win the door prize.
I’d like to be thought of as valiant and brilliant and thin.
And I’d like, when offered a choice between duty and sin,
To not immediately choose duty.
I’d like a couple of offers before I go.
Before I go, I’d like to make things better.
I’d like to be told that I’ve been more of a joy than a pain.
And I’d like those I love to know that they are the ones,
If I could do it again, I’d do it with.
I’d like to do it again before I go.
Judith Viorst: Forever Fifty and other negotiations
Change is a fact of life. All around us are the signs of constant change from the cycle of the seasons to the dance of birth and life in nature. Nothing stays the same. Just look in the mirror. Our lustrous hair turns grey and thins (that is, unless you have the services, as I…